There is a concept in Buddhism called Anitya. It basically says that nothing lasts. Everything that exists is temporary, constantly changing, on its way to becoming something else or nothing at all. The whole universe runs on impermanence. Always has.
What a beautiful, wholesome , love-filled read. LOVED it!! And omg your wife is totally adorable and awesome - do get her to write more in your articles :) also what you wrote, this right here was gold -
“It is the Tuesday. And the Wednesday. And the Thursday that looks exactly like the Tuesday.”
I always look forward to your articles. I have a couple to catch up on, will read soon! Always keep writing :))
This is such a great reflection and analogy for what it feels like to be in a long term relationship. To your point and to keep the analogy running…for me & my husband we end up on autopilot. When you drive yourself home everyday but don’t remember getting there.
To help with this…
One of the things we do is spend time apart. Intentionally. Doing our own thing for a bit. He cycles. I run. I write. He codes. Staycations and vacations without the other. By creating a bit of distance, we tend to remember and lean in closer when we are together. Kind of our own maintenance on our individual cars so that our travel down the highway of life is more interesting together.
I'm seriously affected by your article. As someone who is also "married" to his routine, this is such a powerful wake up call and your analogies are spot on.
Here's the good news: I'm directionally challenged, so finding a detour or two really shouldn't be that difficult.
Your wife is a absolute baddie haha.... the last line she added literally made me laugh in middle of reading this serious topic and now I'm going to take her advice more seriously 🤣
The same routine day in day out may be seem boring or mundane, but for me and my other half it actually gives us security in our relationship. That place that we know we can return to that works out as a comfort zone and knowing that we are there for each other even if we are doing our own thing in separate rooms. Oddly enough, if we do take a 'detour' then it feels like something isn't quite right. Not in a suspicious way, but in a 'am I doing what I can to make sure everything is okay between us' kind of way.
I love your analogy of it all though because when everyday seems samey we start to take for granted our precious other half.
Your write ups are always such a pleasure to read! Thank you 🙏🏻
Soooo many people need to apply and live life. In some form of this. In my book - The Neuroscience of Love & Heartbreak… I painfully point out at love doesn’t fade.
How you talk about the other person changed. Your brain, your RAS, your lens … is … and CAN ONLY … reply in kind to what YOU feed it!!!
I love the Buddhist idea of nothing lasts, they are not alone in that advocacy. A big part of my own therapy is Existentialism… and I leverage the idea of - you don’t have forever here, wtf are you waiting on? Lol.
So ya… I’m with you on all levels 10,000% and bravo again on the write ✍️ up. It is much needed in the world 🌎 … especially today.
What a beautiful, wholesome , love-filled read. LOVED it!! And omg your wife is totally adorable and awesome - do get her to write more in your articles :) also what you wrote, this right here was gold -
“It is the Tuesday. And the Wednesday. And the Thursday that looks exactly like the Tuesday.”
I always look forward to your articles. I have a couple to catch up on, will read soon! Always keep writing :))
This is such a great reflection and analogy for what it feels like to be in a long term relationship. To your point and to keep the analogy running…for me & my husband we end up on autopilot. When you drive yourself home everyday but don’t remember getting there.
To help with this…
One of the things we do is spend time apart. Intentionally. Doing our own thing for a bit. He cycles. I run. I write. He codes. Staycations and vacations without the other. By creating a bit of distance, we tend to remember and lean in closer when we are together. Kind of our own maintenance on our individual cars so that our travel down the highway of life is more interesting together.
My reply became so long that it’s become a note!
Space … does have a way of making sure things don’t become stagnant and mundane.
The military is nice enough to do that for everyone without having to ask for it lol 😂
Not EVERYONE is strong enough for that, bravo to the two of you 👏👏👏
I wouldn’t do well in the military, Hyde. Too many rules.
THAT among a few others, like idiots allowed to be in charge … is exactly why I’m out lol.
Come on now lol … mmeeeeee, rules??!! Hahahahahaha 🙃😉🫠🤣🤣
I'm seriously affected by your article. As someone who is also "married" to his routine, this is such a powerful wake up call and your analogies are spot on.
Here's the good news: I'm directionally challenged, so finding a detour or two really shouldn't be that difficult.
Keep the engine running. Keep growing up. !!
Looking forward to read many articles from you !!
The message is known , but we forget that. Thanks alot for bringing up with perfect words 😊
Thank you for reading. Comments like this are honestly the reason I love writing here. 💕
Your wife is a absolute baddie haha.... the last line she added literally made me laugh in middle of reading this serious topic and now I'm going to take her advice more seriously 🤣
The same routine day in day out may be seem boring or mundane, but for me and my other half it actually gives us security in our relationship. That place that we know we can return to that works out as a comfort zone and knowing that we are there for each other even if we are doing our own thing in separate rooms. Oddly enough, if we do take a 'detour' then it feels like something isn't quite right. Not in a suspicious way, but in a 'am I doing what I can to make sure everything is okay between us' kind of way.
I love your analogy of it all though because when everyday seems samey we start to take for granted our precious other half.
Your write ups are always such a pleasure to read! Thank you 🙏🏻
Great Article 👏👏👏👏
Soooo many people need to apply and live life. In some form of this. In my book - The Neuroscience of Love & Heartbreak… I painfully point out at love doesn’t fade.
How you talk about the other person changed. Your brain, your RAS, your lens … is … and CAN ONLY … reply in kind to what YOU feed it!!!
I love the Buddhist idea of nothing lasts, they are not alone in that advocacy. A big part of my own therapy is Existentialism… and I leverage the idea of - you don’t have forever here, wtf are you waiting on? Lol.
So ya… I’m with you on all levels 10,000% and bravo again on the write ✍️ up. It is much needed in the world 🌎 … especially today.
LOVED it :))